Mindset Hacks for Infertility: What I Wish I Knew When Trying to Get Pregnant

Mindset Shifts That Helped Me Through Infertility

When I was trying to conceive (TTC), I didn’t just need supplements, ovulation trackers, and fertility appointments; I needed mindset support. These are the mental shifts and emotional tools I now teach my fertility coaching clients. They're rooted in psychology, ancient wisdom, and personal development.

These mindset hacks helped me feel more grounded, more hopeful, and more emotionally supported while navigating the uncertainty of infertility.

1. You Are Not Your Thoughts

Infertility anxiety is real. But your thoughts are not facts.
Ask yourself: Is this fear, or is it fact?
We suffer more in imagination than in reality. With intention and repetition, you can rewire your brain for hope instead of fear. This is the foundation of mindset work in my fertility coaching practice.

2. Honor Time Alone (It’s Fertility Self-Care)

Solitude is sacred. Time alone isn’t something to escape—it’s something to honor. Meditation doesn’t have to mean sitting on a cushion. It can be your morning coffee, a quiet car ride, or a few deep breaths in the shower. What matters most is the intention behind it. You may already be doing these things, but by positioning them as rituals and approaching them mindfully, you can strengthen their power. If you’re trying to get pregnant, you’re likely overwhelmed by appointments, decisions, and expectations. These quiet moments of intentional self-connection can ground you, reconnect you to your inner self, and reduce TTC stress.

3. Your brain has a negativity bias.

It’s trying to protect you, but it can’t tell the difference between emotional and physical threats.
It clings to patterns from the past to keep you safe.
But each cycle is a new chapter.
Approach it with a beginner’s mindset.
Your past does not predict your future.

4. Use a Growth Mindset During Setbacks

Every setback is something we can learn from, not a failure.
Instead of: “If I don’t get pregnant soon, it’s all for nothing”
Try: “Every appointment, every act of self-care, every hard moment I move through is progress.”

5. You are exactly where you’re meant to be.

You’re connecting the dots of your life, even when they don’t make sense yet.
As Steve Jobs said in his Stanford commencement speech, “You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future." 
Your journey is uniquely yours. Don’t compare. Trust your path.

6. Stop Waiting to Be Happy

It’s so easy to fall into the “I’ll be happy when I get pregnant” trap.
But that mindset makes the wait unbearable and robs you of joy.
Try this reframe: “My life is meaningful now, even while I’m trying to conceive.”

You are so much more than your fertility. You are enough.

7 . Celebrate the Small Wins on Your TTC Journey & Remember to Zoom Out.

Whether you made it to a morning monitoring appointment or got out of bed on a hard day, celebrate it. The emotional weight of infertility is heavy. You’re juggling so much that it’s easy to overlook how much you’re actually accomplishing. Your brain is wired to focus on what’s going wrong, so you need to be intentional about celebrating what’s going well.

Gratitude and celebration help reduce infertility burnout. They keep you anchored, present, and connected to joy, even when everything feels uncertain.
When you can, zoom out and take a 360-degree look at your life: What areas in your life are you crushing it in? Where would someone else trade places with you? Maybe it’s your job, marriage, house, friendships, travel, creativity, your garden, among other things.

If you want a simple tool to start using this today:
Comment “daily mindset reset” and I’ll send you my 5-minute daily reframe ritual that helps you feel like yourself again, even in the middle of infertility.

You don’t have to be ruled by your thoughts.
You can take your power back.

I believe in the power of daily reminders and hacks that we all need every day, especially during infertility. And most importantly, I believe in you. ✨

Sending you so much love. Today and every day.🙏